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Neuroscience in the Consulting Room: Enhancing the Impact of Couples Therapy

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  1. Discover how to “read” clients’ facial and body language as outward signs of their brain function and emotional processing.
  2. Discover how to use this knowledge to select and time interventions more effectively.
  3. Discover how to make your interventions more efficient by tapping into the processes of relational regulation.
  4. Discover how to determine when clients can’t self-soothe or access higher brain functions and intervene accordingly.

Copyright : 03/23/2017

Couples on the Brink: When Is Enough Enough?

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  1. Course of Treatment
    1. Step One
      1. Join with the Most Distant Partner
      2. Partners’ Positions Translate into Their Unique Dance
      3. Dance as the System Needing Treatment

 

  1. Join Through the Therapist’s “Truth”
    1. Confront the stable partner
    2. Preconditions for Intimacy
    3. Form alliances with each partner
    4. Step Two
      1. Negotiate a 3-4 Month Contract
      2. Base this on 180 degree Turnaround in Stable Partner
    5. Step Three
      1. Produce Palpable Change in the Stable Partner
  2. Three Phases of Treatment
    1. Waking Up
    2. Inner Child Work
    3. Learned Connection
  3. Using Therapeutic Intimacy
    1. Creating Alliance
    2. Appropriate Self Disclosure
    3. Working with Grandiosity
  4. Intimacy as a Spiritual Practice
    1. First and Second Consciousness
    2. Adaptive Child vs Functional Adult
    3. How Couples Mutually Trigger Their Positions
  5. Relational Recovery
    1. How to Bring the Functional Adult into Relationship
    2. Bottom Up and Top Down Healing
  6. Five Losing Strategies of The Adaptive Child
    1. Process of Harmony, Disharmony, and Repair
    2. Being Right, Controlling the Partner, Unbridled Self-Expression
    3. Retaliation, and Withdrawal
  7. The Relational Grid
    1. Self-esteem
    2. Grandiosity and Toxic Shame
    3. Full-Respect Living
    4. Boundaries
    5. Letter to the Adaptive Child
    6. How to Go After What You Want
    7. Improving Communication
  8. The Feedback Wheel
    1. Acknowledgement
    2. Experience
    3. Imaginings
    4. Feelings
    5. Desires
    6. Listening and Responding
    7. Teach the Couple to Hold Reality Lightly
    8. Develop Curiosity
    9. Respond with Generosity
    10. Cherish What You Have

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Copyright : 03/24/2017

Creating Secure Connection in Couples Therapy: An Emotionally Focused Approach

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  1. Overview of EFT
    1. EFT has 3 Stages and 9 Steps
    2. Goal:  To help Couples Become Aware of Negative Interactional Patterns
    3. Three Elements Include:  Attachment, Systemic View, Focus on Emotions
  2. 5 Basic Moves of EFT
    1. Reflect and Distill Present Process
    2. Unfold Deeper or New Emotions
    3. Turn New Experience into new Steps/signals to partner
    4. Explore How Each Experiences the New Steps
    5. Integrate and Validate
    6. Core Assumptions of EFT
  3. EFT Review of Pertinent Research
    1. Demonstrates 90% Increase in Satisfaction
    2. EFT Studied with fMRI
  4. EFT Focuses on Attachment and Bonding
    1. Interactional Patterns Reflect Attachment Styles
    2. Differentiating Primary and Secondary Emotions
    3. Insecurity Leads to Predictable Reactions
  5. Three Forms of Attachment Insecurity
    1. Anxious
    2. Avoidant
    3. Chaotic
  6. Treatment
    1. Involves Limbic Resonance, Regulation, and Revision
    2. Reciprocal Cycles Between Partners
  7. EFT Interventions Toward Developing Secure Attachments
    1. Intrapsychic
    2. Interpersonal
    3. Interactional Patterns
    4. 7 Steps of Intervention
  8. Stages of EFT
    1. De-escalation
    2. Re-structure the Bond
    3. Consolidation

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Copyright : 03/23/2017

Addiction Treatment and Couples Therapy: Using Emotionally Focused Therapy to Strengthen Sobriety

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  1. The Medical Model and Addiction
    1. Key Figures in Modern Treatment
  2. Emotion Focused Therapy
    1. Emotion Focused Therapy for PTSD
    2. Definition of Trauma
    3. The Power of Treating Trauma Within the Context of the Couple Relationship
  3. Neuroplasticity and Change
    1. Importance of Heightened Emotion in Change
    2. How Emotion is More Powerful than Cognition
  4. Adverse Childhood Experiences
    1. Adverse Childhood Experiences and Addiction
    2. Attachment and Trauma is Key to Working with Addiction
    3. Importance of Context in a Person’s Life
  5. Cycle of Trauma Attachment and Addiction
    1. How the Couple System Hijacks Attachment Fluidity
    2. The Relationship between Attachment and Emotion in Systemic Change
    3. How Partner’s Stress Strategies Become the Other Partner’s Negative Trigger
  6. The Process of EFT
    1. Five Basic Moves of EFT
    2. Addressing the Addiction through Attachment Style
    3. Experientially Engage Client with the Underlying Emotion that Addiction Regulates

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Copyright : 03/24/2017

BONUS: Attachment and the Dance of Sex: Integrating Couples and Sex Therapy

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Copyright : 03/18/2016

BONUS: The Rules of the New Monogamy: The Changing Face of Committed Relationships

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  1. Creating the New Monogamy Agreement
    1. The Explict and Implicit Agreement
    2. Renegotiating Rules of Monogamy Through Developmental Stages
    3. The Momogamy Continuum
    4. Thoughts
    5. Fantasy
    6. Desires
    7. Arousal
    8. Flirtation
    9. Emotions
    10. Action
    11. Connection
    12. Sex
    13. Love
    14. Detachment
  2. The New Normal
    1. Eroticism and Companionship
    2. What Couples Want May Be Changing
  3. Components of an Affair
    1. The Outside Emotional Relationship
    2. The Dishonesty
    3. The Sexual Relationship
  4. Steps in Recovery
    1. Creating Understanding
    2. Renegotiate Agreements
    3. Initiate Erotic Recovery
    4. Empathy in Recovery
  5. Two Elements in Couple Relationships
    1. Business of Relationship
    2. Sexual Aspects
  6. Create A New Vision of The Relationship
    1. Through Exploration and Discussion with Couples
    2. Outline for Both the New Vision of the Future
    3. Creating Agreement over Accepted Behaviors

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Copyright : 03/23/2017