Vulnerability, Courage, Shame, and Empathy | Living Big

Lesson Objectives

• Develop a deeper sense of compassion for yourself and others.
• Develop tools for boundary setting in order to work from a place of integrity and generosity towards the assumptions and intentions of others.

Reading Assignment 

Rising Strong — This lesson is explored in Chapter 6, but reading Chapters 6-11 will be very helpful.

Lesson: Living Big

01. Do you believe people are doing the best they can? 

Think of a person you constantly find yourself judging - someone whose choices, values, and/or behaviors you find annoying or unacceptable. 

02. What specifically drives your judgement? 

03. What would it mean for you (not them) if TADTVBTC? 

Exercise: Living Big

Boundaries: getting clear on what’s okay and what’s not okay

Integrity: choosing courage over comfort; choosing what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy; and choosing to practice our values rather than simply professing them

Generosity: working from assumptions and intentions of compassion and grace

01. What boundaries do I need to put in place so that I can work from a place of integrity and extend the most generous interpretations of the intention, words, and actions of this person?

Think about the person you picked during the video.  List 3-4 specific boundaries.

Barriers to Living BIG

• Perfectionism
• Fear of grief
• Sadness
• Fear
• Self-judgment   

02. How does perfectionism prevent living BIG?

Into the Bones

Manifesto of the Brave and Brokenhearted

By Brené Brown, Rising Strong

There is no greater threat to the critics

and cynics and fearmongers 

Than those of us who are willing to fall 

Because we have learned how to rise.

With skinned knees and bruised hearts; 

We choose owning our stories of struggle, 

Over hiding, over hustling, over pretending.

When we deny our stories, they define us. 

When we run from struggle, we are never free.

So we turn toward truth and look it in the eye. 

We will not be characters in our stories. 

Not villains, not victims, not even heroes. 

We are the authors of our lives. 

We write our own daring endings. 

We craft love from heartbreak, 

Compassion from shame, 

Grace from disappointment,

Courage from failure.

Showing up is our power. 

Story is our way home. Truth is our song. 

We are the brave and brokenhearted. 

We are rising strong.