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Margalis Fjelstad, Ph.D., LMFT


Margalis Fjelstad, Ph.D., LMFT has had a clinical practice for the past 30 years. She specializes in educating therapists, lawyers, and case workers in the dynamics of relationships that contain a borderline or narcissist.

She has over 150 hours of training in personality disorders and concentrates on working with clients who are in a relationship with a borderline or narcissist. She has conducted over 10,000 hours of counseling with these caretaker clients, led more than 1500 hours of group therapy, and 140 training workshops. As a college professor at California State University, Sacramento, and Regis University in Colorado, she has educated thousands of students in therapeutic techniques and best counseling practices and taught 13,000 hours of graduate classes.

Her book and accompanying workbook, Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on With Life, outlines specific steps for helping caretakers stop participating in the drama dynamics of these relationships. Using her extensive experience with personality disorders, Margalis is able to take clinical concepts and bring them to life in an organized and imminently useful way. She understands the dysfunctional dynamics of the borderline and narcissist and can explain clear methods to help caretaker clients evade their manipulations and move forward.